Let's be honest - most guys on Grindr are looking for sex in some form. Yes, there are a few who are purely looking either for friendship only or just to chat. But the majority of guys are looking for one of two things. ‘Right Now’ or ‘Friends with Benefits’.
‘Right Now’ meets are usually caused by a horniness which needs sorting ASAP. They are usually a one off, although can turn into multiple encounters if the two guys find they are compatible in more than a physical way. But this latter state of affairs is usually a lucky bonus. Physical investigation will have dominated their Grindr chat – they probably won't have investigated non-sexual compatibility at all.
Because ‘Right Now’ meets tend to be one offs and purely physical, then you do need to enter into them with a level head and in full control of your emotions. You need to appreciate that the meet is probably going to be just sex and not get too upset if the other guy isn’t particularly interested in ever seeing you again. Not everyone is capable of this detached attitude.
If you are worried that you might not be able to do this, or feel that ‘Right Now’ is a bit too businesslike for how you like your sexual interactions, then I suggest that you get your sex fix via ‘Friends with Benefits’. This, in my opinion, is the sweet spot. You are initially meeting up with a guy to discover whether the two of you have both a sexual compatibility and a social compatibility. Sex will take place depending on the results.
Let’s assume that both sexual and social compatibility each have three possible results:
This will gives us nine possible outcomes for the meet:
Six of these outcomes (4, 5, 6, 7, 8 & 9) are positive. Two of these outcomes (2 & 3) while maybe not positive, still make life interesting. Only one outcome (1) is negative.
While ‘Right Now’ meets are the right choice for a lot of guys, if you have any doubts about your emotional ability to handle them, you might like to consider getting your sex fix via seeking ‘Friends with Benefits’ on Grindr. The sex won’t be as instant as ‘Right Now’ but it might help protect you emotionally if the businesslike aspect of a ‘Right Now’ meet does not suit your personal character.