This is the second in a series of three articles for 'Making your Hookup a Success'. The three articles are 'Before He Arrives', 'Between the Sheets' and 'When He Leaves'.
OK - You have got your hookup back at your place. Now make sure the action is successful by making sure all of the following are brought to the bedroom.
If you have to rush things, it will not be a good encounter. It may also take a little while for you both to relax with each other and get revved up. Make sure you allow enough time for a relaxed and leisurely assignation.
Not always easy. But if you are going to have sex, you want the freedom to be boisterous and noisy should things lead that way. You certainly want the privacy to be able to visit the bathroom without fear of bumping into grandma. If you have housemates, and you invite a guy round, let him know in advance that the pair of you will not be the only ones in the house. That way he can adjust his expectations accordingly.
A sense of humour
You are meeting a (relative) stranger to perform intimate deeds with him and there is huge potential for things to become awkward. Don’t take it too seriously. The pair of you should be able to laugh and smile whatever happens.
Considering the intimate things you are doing to one another, you owe it to each other to make eye contact during the encounter. Failure to do so may result in each party feeling dehumanised. It also enables each of you to check that the other one is really enjoying themselves.
If this is a ‘Right Now’ hook-up, it is possible that the other guy is more focussed on what he is after rather than what you are looking for. Even if you enjoy being submissive, don’t be shy in initially telling him what will make it an enjoyable encounter for you too. Most guys are keen to ensure the other guy’s pleasure. Assertiveness and confidence are also major turn-ons for many guys.
It is possible the encounter will not go as expected. The guy may be unable to get an erection. Alternatively he may be so excited or horned up that he ejaculates prematurely bringing the session to an unexpectedly short conclusion. He will probably be embarrassed about this but do not recriminate with him. Understand that these are both hazards of the sport and reassure him that the two of you can always try again at a future date. Your empathy may actually be sufficient to relax him enough for a more successful second attempt to take place.
Hopefully a successful encounter should now take place. But even when you have both shot your load you are not yet finished. Make sure the encounter ends amicably by following the advice in part 3.