This is the first in a series of three articles for 'Making your Hookup a Success'. The three articles are 'Before He Arrives', 'Between the Sheets' and 'When He Leaves'.
So you have hooked up with a guy on Grindr and he is on his way to your place to get intimate with you. What can you do to maximise the chances of a successful encounter? Here is a list of things to ensure you have before he arrives.
This is an essential element for penetrative sex – make sure you have plenty of it.
The pair of you should have already discussed and decided on your safer sex practices but if not, have some condoms to hand. For some guys condoms are non-negotiable. Remember that PrEP doesn’t prevent syphilis, chlamydia, gonorrhoea or a whole host of other nasty infections.
You may or may not have discussed the use of poppers in your initial message exchange but as their use is extremely popular it is a good idea to have a bottle in a bedside drawer. If you are going to be the active partner, and you are substantially endowed, it is polite to have these to hand. The bottom might not need them. He might even actively dislike them. But your anticipated thoughtfulness may be the reassurance he needs that he is with a guy he can trust. This will help him relax and if you are well endowed, you need him relaxed!
If you know you are going to use poppers, break the seal beforehand – it is pretty much impossible to do when you have lube on your hands!
Sex can get messy so make sure you have some hand towels within easy reach.
You have met this guy through a gay dating app. He may end up being the love of your life, but the chances are not high. Enjoy the experience for what it is.
A fairly tidy house
OK, he is not coming over to critique your cleanliness. But he will notice if you haven’t made the effort to make your home/bed welcoming which will undoubtedly affect the effort he puts into the encounter.
A clean body and fresh breath
Unless you have already established that he is into sweat or dirt, make sure you have had a shower. Pay particular attention to intimate bits that he might be licking or sucking. However you may not want to go overboard with scented products or aftershave.
If kissing is on the agenda, clean your teeth (or at least suck a few mints!)
A clean ‘chamber’
This cleaning goes for the interior as well as the exterior. If you are a bottom, please douche out. Your top will appreciate it and failure to douche could result in passion killing sights and odours.
So now you should be all ready for when he knocks on the door. Now you want to maximise your chances of a successful and enjoyable roll between the sheets by following the tips in part 2.