You have two ways of making contact with a guy on Grindr. Make your profile so attractive that he messages you. Or message him yourself.
You will no doubt be using both strategies. In this post I take a look at some of the implications of each method.
This is the third in a series of three articles for 'Making your Hookup a Success'. The three articles are 'Before He Arrives', 'Between the Sheets' and 'When He Leaves'.
The final part. You have had a successful romp and both of you have shot your load. There is always the danger that the atmosphere might now become strained. To help the encounter end happily for both parties make sure you have the following available.
This is the second in a series of three articles for 'Making your Hookup a Success'. The three articles are 'Before He Arrives', 'Between the Sheets' and 'When He Leaves'.
OK - You have got your hookup back at your place. Now make sure the action is successful by making sure all of the following are brought to the bedroom.
This is the first in a series of three articles for 'Making your Hookup a Success'. The three articles are 'Before He Arrives', 'Between the Sheets' and 'When He Leaves'.
So you have hooked up with a guy on Grindr and he is on his way to your place to get intimate with you. What can you do to maximise the chances of a successful encounter? Here is a list of things to ensure you have before he arrives.
I am sure you have seen numerous profiles on Grindr emblazoned with the motto ‘No Pic, No Chat’. And although it gets monotonous seeing it so often, you can understand why it is there. These guys are looking for sex in either a 'Right Now' or 'Friends with Benefits' form. They therefore don’t want to get chatting to guys who they don’t find sexy. Fair enough. It does look a little odd when these guys themselves either don’t have a profile pic, or are displaying a profile pic that tells you nothing about either their face or their body. But Grindr is full of oddities. And as they are effectively telling you ‘I’m demanding something off you that I am not prepared to reveal (initially) myself’, you may decide that they are not the type of guy you want to engage with.
Let's be honest - most guys on Grindr are looking for sex in some form. Yes, there are a few who are purely looking either for friendship only or just to chat. But the majority of guys are looking for one of two things. ‘Right Now’ or ‘Friends with Benefits’.
‘Right Now’ meets are usually caused by a horniness which needs sorting ASAP. They are usually a one off, although can turn into multiple encounters if the two guys find they are compatible in more than a physical way. But this latter state of affairs is usually a lucky bonus. Physical investigation will have dominated their Grindr chat – they probably won't have investigated non-sexual compatibility at all.
If you are a free Grindr user then you can only see the nearest 100 guys in your Grindr cascade. But with a canny use of the free filters you can get to see many more guys – just not all at once.
Free Grindr users have access to three free filters (although only one at a time can be used). These three filters are: Age; Tribes; Looking For. The age filter is the one you will be using.
One of the most popular requests from free Grindr users is to have unlimited blocks. What these users have to remember is that Grindr needs to make money. Although founder Joel Simkhai originally set up the app so that people with similar interests could find new friends nearby, since then Grindr has become a company. And all companies need to make a profit otherwise they will fail.
The two main methods by which Grindr earns income are:
In June 2019 Grindr released a further upgrade to their app – Grindr Unlimited. This version comes with all the same functionality as Grindr Xtra, but also has some additional features.
Most of these features are to do with hiding/destroying evidence of your Grindr use. E.g., anonymous browsing, not showing in other guys’ ‘who looked at me’ lists, being able to ‘unsend’ messages and pictures. If you are not out, and being outed could be dangerous for you, then these features might be of use. Otherwise they are unlikely to significantly increase your Grindr success. For completeness I list the additional features here but, unless you are a guy who has to be discreet at all costs, my advice is to save your money and give Grindr Unlimited a miss.